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     You open the door for an elderly sick person.  You offer your condolences to a friend who just lost a family member to cancer.  You listen to someone who is alone and in despair after the breakup of their relationship.  You hold a crying child in your arms.  In these examples, compassion is being given to someone in pain.   Compassion is bringing a sensitivity to someone's pain with a desire to help. My children on my wedding day      If you are on the giving side of compassion, you know that feeling, the feeling of warmness and caring in your heart.  It's such a very good feeling.  So why not treat yourself to some of it? I mean aren't you the one who has the most power and responsibility for your own wellbeing?      While the experience of giving compassion may appear rewarding only to the recipient, there are rewards for the giver as well.  As the giver, you actually lower stress and calm your body.  Basically, it's a win-win situation for both parti

Eddie Grassi, Point Lobos CA August July 29, 2018 Do you remember the last time you refused something really good? While it may sound counterintuitive, people do it all the time. We resist the opportunity to take in the good.  Even though it is all around us, like low hanging fruit, we may have our reasons not to accept it.  The invitation to let in the good isn't always a given.  For instance,  you feel you do not deserve to be happy or that you are not worthy to receive its benefits.  Or maybe you have doubts about happiness because of past experiences in which the idea of being happy did not work out so well.     Another idea you may hold is that this stuff about happiness just doesn't work; it's a sham.   You may think to yourself, "no way, not trying this junk.  It's a waste of time."  There's also the thought that you already are happy so there's no need for more.   All of these possibilities can make you feel resistant.  And guess w