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Magicians rarely like to explain their tricks but because I'm not a professional magician I can let you in on a little secret magic for your brain.  Actually, it's a pretty big trick. First, however, I must give full credit to Rick Hanson, my veritable master teacher, whose international bestselling book, Hardwiring Happiness: the new science of contentment, calm and confidence, has inspired me this post.   All of what I'm about to say comes from the magic of the pages in this book.  I am not a neuroscientist and doctor like him, but I don't need to be to understand what he's saying.  He explains it in very simple layman's terms which I have likened to a magician telling us how the trick works.  The trick we are talking about here is how to experience consistent lasting happiness over a life-time.  So calling it a "trick" is not exactly right.  It's more of a method for creating lasting happiness and other inner strengths such as the ones menti

Eddie Grassi, Life Coach eddiegrassilifecoaching.com Having self-confidence is on a lot of people's wishlist this year.  That's probably because self-confidence is necessary to be successful at what you do.  What's great is that just a little self-confidence in anything can evolve into mountains of the stuff, which can be applied to many things.  It's one of those must have traits that enable us to perform at our full-potential when we meet challenges in our relationships and career.  If you could buy a bottle of self-confidence from Target, you would probably give it a try.  You could then drink some of it and then ta-dah, you have self-confidence.  The only trouble is its expiration date.   This means that this precious trait will not last forever in your system.  While this could never happen, in reality our attitude towards self-confidence isn't much different.  We tend to think of it as something that does not come naturally.  If it does at all, it is s

You want to feel more gratitude in life?  What about motivation?  What about calmness? Then try this: have an experience where you feel gratitude.  Just have one.   Here are some examples: to stimulate a feeling of gratitude in response: notice you are alive and breathing.  Listen to your breath.  See what's in front of you. Be grateful for being alive. Notice when you can move.  Be grateful you can move. Notice when somebody smiles at you.  Be grateful somebody smiled at you. The list goes on.  The event or experience need not be big and grandiose like winning a million dollars to get on the train of positivity.   We don't need million dollar moments to be grateful.  If this proves difficult for you to do, that's okay, have patience with yourself and be grateful that you are trying.  It's not supposed to be easy like, well, like when we feel anxious or angry.   That's not you?  Well, for many of us, including myself, those two feelings have had lots o

     You open the door for an elderly sick person.  You offer your condolences to a friend who just lost a family member to cancer.  You listen to someone who is alone and in despair after the breakup of their relationship.  You hold a crying child in your arms.  In these examples, compassion is being given to someone in pain.   Compassion is bringing a sensitivity to someone's pain with a desire to help. My children on my wedding day      If you are on the giving side of compassion, you know that feeling, the feeling of warmness and caring in your heart.  It's such a very good feeling.  So why not treat yourself to some of it? I mean aren't you the one who has the most power and responsibility for your own wellbeing?      While the experience of giving compassion may appear rewarding only to the recipient, there are rewards for the giver as well.  As the giver, you actually lower stress and calm your body.  Basically, it's a win-win situation for both parti

Eddie Grassi, Point Lobos CA August July 29, 2018 Do you remember the last time you refused something really good? While it may sound counterintuitive, people do it all the time. We resist the opportunity to take in the good.  Even though it is all around us, like low hanging fruit, we may have our reasons not to accept it.  The invitation to let in the good isn't always a given.  For instance,  you feel you do not deserve to be happy or that you are not worthy to receive its benefits.  Or maybe you have doubts about happiness because of past experiences in which the idea of being happy did not work out so well.     Another idea you may hold is that this stuff about happiness just doesn't work; it's a sham.   You may think to yourself, "no way, not trying this junk.  It's a waste of time."  There's also the thought that you already are happy so there's no need for more.   All of these possibilities can make you feel resistant.  And guess w

Increase Your Confidence Using Mindfulness Being confident takes more than just practice. The real key is developing a sense of your own self-worth and self-esteem which may have been undermined during early childhood. This can happen from internalizing criticisms and rejections directed at you from a parent or adult. While overcoming this is not easy, your brain can begin to replace negative thinking with positive thinking once you start to practice self-compassion. In this self-improvement video we will practice a powerful mindfulness technique to get you build self-confidence and self-compassion. Hi, my name is Eddie Grassi and I am a Career and Relationships Coach with lifecoachingaid.com. I hope my video was helpful to you. If you lack confidence or have low self-esteem, feel free to contact me by visiting my website below. I am a career and relationships coach in San Francisco. Eddie Grassi lifecoachingaid.com eddiegrassi10@gmail.com 😀